Thursday, February 14, 2008

I talked to my very angry and hurt older sister yesterday evening. I knew that she and my mom hadn't spoken in about a month now, and I hadn't talked to her in probably longer than a month. So I was a bit shocked to see her calling, to say the least. I debated whether I should answer the phone, not wanting to be disloyal to my mom, but I went ahead and took the call. I was really not prepared for what she told me. This whole time, I thought my sister, Holly, was the one at fault with the way things were going with the two of them. But it turns out, my mom is not so innocent herself. According to my sister, she has been pretty unloving towards her. Now, I'm not about to sit here and pretend my mom is a perfect mother. She was pretty terrible to me after I got engaged and not much better on my wedding day, but that's all water under the bridge now. I guess I'm still a little shocked that she has been behaving this way towards my sister. And all this time, I have been siding with her! The thing about is, I'm not sure who to believe. They are both exaggerators to the extreme and very, very emotional and sensitive. But I am just hating this. I hate when there is any kind of fighting going on. I hate it. And I don't know what to do. I guess the obvious answer is nothing, but I'm just not that kind of girl. I want to fix things and counsel people and make things better. I just don't think I am going to be able to any of those things this time. All I can do is pray. Pray that they would both come to their senses and both realize how much they stand to loose by behaving this way. But for now, I feel pretty awful about it. And there is no way around that.

1 comment:

The Norvells said...

Oh rob...I have the same issue. Not between mom and sister, but between mom and, oh, pretty much the rest of my family. My mom's decision to remarry, for the thrid time, last September, did not go over well, and the whole time I played Dr. Phil to my family. I was watching Oprah, of all shows, the other day and something really struck a cord with me that I will pass on to you. It's not my (our)responsibility to fix the family, it is only our responsibility to be part of the family. I know how you feel....maybe next time I pass through your neck of the woods we can eat subway and talk all about it! Miss you!!!